What to Do, She Might Be Back on Drugs?

Question by T: What to do, she might be back on drugs?
My little nephew is gonna turn 3 in Januar. His father, my brother-in-law was killed in combat 4 months before he was born. My in-laws are supporting her financially and they also used to babysit their grandson a few days a week before my mother-in-law got very sick a few months ago. She had open heart surgery last month and is now recovering. My nephews mother has been under the weather since her fiance died and she has made some choices she isn’t proud of including the abuse of OTC medicine and illegal drugs. My in-laws sent her to a clinic and to rehab immediately after they found out and we all thought she was doing great, but today she seemed really weird. We all immediately thought she was back on something, but no one dared to bring it up since she’s hardly been around since my mother-in-law got sick and both she and her husband are too scared she will stop visiting and they will lose their grandson. My husband was really upset when she left and he and his dad have been fighting for an hour now. I have no idea what to do, or what advice to give them at this point, my mother-in-law is upset and crying because she thinks it is all her fault and her and my husband keep yelling at each other. What to do?

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Answer by RJ2K1
Call the cops.

Answer by Victoria
Honestly this is def not an easy situation to deal with and when it comes to an addict the worst thing you can do is “tip toe” around the situation for fear of offending them or because your afraid that they will take something that you want. Addict’s are manipulative by nature (I’m not saying that there not good people but the DISEASE makes them this way) and when they know they have a “power card” to play, they will not hesitate to use it ( in this case it is your nephew/in-laws grandson)

Sometimes you have to be the one to stand up and look at things from a logical point of view. It sucks and it’s horrible that she lost her husband (and you your brother in law, & your husband his brother, and your in laws there son and your nephew his father) but the fact of the matter is that she has a son to raise (or you all do remember the quote “it takes a village”) This is going to get worse before it gets better especially the way everyone is going about it now.

The most important thing is that someone needs to stand up for that baby, whoever does might be seen as a bit*ch, or the most horrible person in the world by the addict (but that’s ok and it’s to be expected) your doing it out of LOVE!

You and your family have every right to question her if her behavior truly calls for it due to her past actions (I condone her for going to rehab, but recovery is a LIFE LONG process (it’s not like a cold that just goes away.) Addicts will have every excuse in the book for why they use to justify it to themselves and others and it’s a cycle.

Don’t be afraid to call her on her bs when she needs it and you and your family should stage an “intervention” and consult with a professional and to explain the situation so they can help you. Your doing this for the baby, and her and your family (you don’t want to lose what’s left of it) and for that you will never be wrong (even though I’m sure she will do her best to make you feel that you are wrong, but you are not)

Doing the right things isn’t always easy but someone has to stand up and do it. I wish you and your family the best of luck and I hope it works out!

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