How to Deal With in Laws Who Are Manipulating and Abuse Their Medication?
Question by Mary: How to deal with In laws who are manipulating and abuse their medication?
I am 25 years old, I have been married for 8 years. My husband’s parents have big hearts and love everyone they meet but they are the most manipulating people I know. I’ve been through a lot with them. They had a crack cocaine habit and moved from that to pill addiction. My mother in law has always been jealous of me and says I took her son away. She’s gone as far if my husband jokes around with me like hits my leg she’ll turn around and hit him or tickle him for his attention. When we had a baby things only got worse. They are now jealous of the attention their son is giving to me and his daughter instead of them. They’ll make up any reason for him to come over. One night they called 3 times in a row and bothered him until he went over there just to take their trash out! The day I was in labor with him daughter, my father in law was tore up on his medication and ended up tripping and falling so my husband wasn’t even in the room when the doctor broke my water because he was with his dad in the ER! At my daughter’s first birthday party my father in law had again taken too many pills and could barely walk and ended up spilling his plate of food everywhere and making a scene. Even with everything they’ve done they still call my husband at least 3 times a day and he answers every time and lets them guilt him into doing things for them. What makes it worse is his parents are disabled and I actually work for them, the government pays me to clean their house and help out. I hate it and they use it against me to make me come over anytime they want. I hate my job and don’t want my daughter around them when they take too many pills but it’s good money and it allows me to work without leaving my daughter. I don’t know what to do because I can’t get away from them. Recently our car broke down and it’s taking time for us to get it fixed, so his parents let us “borrow” their car. That has been the worst possible thing to happen because now every time they call we have to go and take them everywhere. My husband will be gone for 3 hours taking them around town to do their errands because his dad will claim he’s not feeling good and can’t drive so he can guilt my husband to drive them everywhere so they can spend the day with him and keep him from being home with me and our daughter. I do not know what to do. I know it’s not ok for my daughter to be around people who aren’t always sober and have been known to buy/sell their medication. When they’re sober they’re good people and they’re great with her and I feel bad for keeping their grand daughter away, but I shouldn’t have to call every time I go over there to make sure they’re sober! I don’t know what to do. My husband puts them first and when he doesn’t come running when they call they accuse him of not caring about them and his mom will call over and over crying like a baby until he gives her what she wants. I love my husband but I’m not sure how much longer I can deal with his parents. I want to quit working for his parents but we can’t afford it right now and we don’t know anyone who can babysit if I go and get a real job. I’m about to lose my mind and I’m so miserable I can’t think straight. How do I make my husband see how manipulating they are? How do I make him put me and our daughter first? Is it right for me to keep them away from my daughter all the time sober or not?
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Answer by USA MALE
Ignore and dont go around anyone thats a druggie is the best policy or you may be arrested too if the place is raided
Answer by cococlothes1
If you want it to change you can change it. Save up for a month and find a new job. Take the bus to another job. If you are miserable you will find away to change your surroundings. You can continue to work for them and that’s it. Just because you use their car you don’t have to take them everywhere. There are always other option, you just may have to deal with hardships for a little while.
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