My Mom Allows My Much Older Brother to Bully Me..advice?
Question by sebbieswifey110608: my mom allows my much older brother to bully me..advice?
I am 19 he is 37. I recently lost my job due to lay offs and am actively looking for new employment as I recently got married and my hubby will be back from training in July which is when we’ll be purchasing a place. My brother just moved back in because he and his wife are seperated or as they say, “taking a much needed break”. Well when we live under the same roof my brother tends to pick on me, and not in a sibling ha-ha way. When I misspeak he calls me stupid. When I talk about trying to get a job he retorts, “What do you even qualify for?” He pushes past me in the hallway or runs right into me, laughs at my every mistake, and its endless. The other day he was supposed to help me move my bed into my room (a full size mattress and box spring). Well he said, “do it for yourself. your so lazy.” and he only helped me when later my mom said, “when are you gonna help your sister with her bed?” when i go to the story he says, “buy me some tobacco.” and despite the fact i hate smoking and he never pays me back he acts dramatic if i dont buy it and it causes more problems. I told my mom earlier that im leaving to stay with a friend for a week because of the way my brother treats me and when i vented to her about it she said, “thats life. you need to learn to deal with it people are like that.” she has no sympathy. whats crazy is if i told him to shut up or something she’d say, “kelly, kelly, stop it. you are being rude.” but he can say it to me all he wants. if he criticizes my weight my mom argues its freedom of speech, but the minute i bring up his alcoholism she says im being insensitive. in the past he has said things like, “you need lipo badly” or “gheez all you do is eat”. and thats not true im overweight not obese (although he called his wife fat when she was 8 months pregnant and the only thing big about her waas her belly).
I just cant take it anymore. my mom treats my brothers so differently. if my brother needs a ride to pick up tobacco she’ll drop what she’s doing and take him. but if i need a ride to pick up shampoo because im completely out she says, “im not in the mood to go to the store.” its constant. she makes excuses for him when he gets arrested or doesnt show up to the birth of his own kid, but when i got in a car accident and both me and the other guy was cited i never heard the end of what a terrible driver i was, or when i forget to sit the trash out on thursday i get bitched at for a week. btw my brother trashes my bathroom leaves tobacco and his clothes and towels on the floor and my mom says nothing but if i dont hang my towel just right i get screamed at. when i tell her she says, “you’re a girl you should know better.”
Advice?
Best answer:
Answer by Greg F
Child sevices……………..Be prepared for a foster mom and no borthers after you give them a call!
Answer by Rob H
kick ur bro n the nuts untill hes knocked out then go live somewhere else till he coolsdown ahahaha
did the dude above me not see ur age? lol your not a child you dun gotta live there
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